I often have heard "do you ever wonder why"? I hear other families going through the journey ask and plead with God, of why? I do wonder why...(but not the same as many; this may get real spiritual for a minute) I have asked Why, is the sense of what are we supposed to learn from this trial?!? I have said many times over that god gives us what he knows we need to go through. The trials that will make us stronger, make us believe, make us learn lessons, we may not even realize we are learning. Does cancer suck, YES IT DOES. Cancer sucks 100% I have lost 2 grandparents that I was close with to it. My husband lost his dad, a man I never got to meet. When My husband and I married we didn't ever think we would be facing what we do today. The trials are real. They say that America has a divorce rate of 50%, and you put the stress, and reality of having a Childhood cancer, I can't even imagine what the rate is. Does that erase the many, many fights, over how to pay for his treatments, how to have him take his medications...(I remember arguing in the kitchen one night as I was fighting with Carson to get his medications down, it was a day he had to take 16+ pills, he was on steroids, and it was a mess. I was so frustrated so angry that I was fighting for him to take a medication that would save his life; and I was angry I was the one in there doing it. Why should I fight this battle? I lost my cool on Brant, who came into help. I took a break and went to our bedroom. Sat on the bed cried as hard as I could for the 2 minutes before Blake came in to find me, he asked "mommy whats wrong" Climbed up on the bed and hugged me. I dried my tears, and said mommy is sad, I gave him a hug and took a deep breath and walked back into the war zone to get this medication down. Brant gave me a hug when I came back in. Between Blake's hug and Brant's I was able to find strength to help Carson again. I took the pills away, let him calm down, and then talked to him about it, after he took his meds, he chewed his medication.) Why Brant couldn't take off work to take him to treatment, and many other fights about who knows what. The stress that Cancer has put on our marriage is insane, unthinkable.
But at the End of the day; I always remember, he is there because we choose to walk through whatever was to come. We are walking through hell and have been for 2+ years now and yet, at the end of the day he is the only one I want to walk through this journey with. He is my rock, He is my complete opposite, but somehow we make it all work. He is a thinker, I am not, He knows nothing about Carson's cancer, besides the basics... he trusts me to make life changing decisions and supports them with out question. me- I know more than I should and can ramble off medications, and surgeries with dates with out thinking twice, He is quiet, I am loud. He is very shy, I am not. He is reserved, I am an open book.
"On my own I'm only
Half of what I could be
I can't do without you
We are stitched together
And what love has tethered
I pray we never undo"
I know now that walking through the hell of cancer, isn't easy, it isn't for the weak, it isn't fair. But God gave us this journey, and God gave us each other to get through the hell.
Romans 5:3-4
"And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope;"
This past weekend we were able with the help of both of our families pull off an amazing weekend get-a-way. It was very much needed. We have not been away alone since Carson was 9 months old for more than a night. So to have 4 days away was amazing. the Past 2 years we have needed it more than we could have even thought. We enjoyed every moment of it, we didn't get into the "deep" stuff we just kept it easy, simple, and enjoyed the fun, and each other company! :)
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